Don’t be “nice” at the expense of YOU

I’ve been a “nice” person. I’ve said yes when I really wanted to say no. I’ve agreed to doing things, signed up for tasks, done jobs I didn’t like - all because I wanted to be a “nice” person for others - but at the expense of myself and my needs and wants. What does being “nice” really mean, when you break it down? If you are sacrificing yourself to be “nice” to others, then you are not being nice to yourself.

What if being nice meant saying NO to things you didn’t want to do? How does turning that thought around sit with you? What does that mean to you? Does it feel supportive and more authentic? Can you play with that thought and see what comes to mind?
Sometimes reframing what “nice” means - where you turn it toward you instead of others - can be a small shift to taking care of yourself and your own needs, and in turn being able to help and be present for others at the same time.