Good girls can unlearn being a good girl and live in their own integrity

As good girls we are often praised and rewarded for our compliance and what we do for others. This teaches us to be small, silent and live outside of ourselves and our needs. It’s possible to relearn that your voice, your needs and you matter. It’s possible to to learn that it’s ok to live in your own integrity.

If this resonates with you, know there is no shame for feeling like you’ve been a good girl for however long. It’s not something you knowingly signed up for and has probably in many ways been an amazing protection for you.

And if you’re starting to feel crunchy and resentful toward your good girl parts, it’s probably a sign you’re ready for a shift. No shame there, either. You get to evolve.

As I break out of my good girl patterns, it can feel incredibly scary and freeing at the same time. It’s taking small steps forward to who I’ve always been deep down. It feels like trying on new clothes in a style I don’t normally wear, but are familiar, comfortable and fit really well.

It’s coming home. And, like most healing and nurturing things, it’s a process and it takes time.

Continue to gently remind yourself it’s ok to have needs. It’s ok to say no and still be kind. Start by finding safe spaces to practice speaking your mind - even if it’s talking to yourself. Slowly learn what you like and don’t like, accept and won’t accept. It will feel weird at first, and over time it will feel empowering.

Hooray for you!! 💪🏼🎉💛

I have space in my schedule to compassionately support you and give you tools to empower yourself, break out of good girl, and move forward.