The opposite of a good girl isn’t a bad girl. It’s person standing in their own power.

First of all, the notion of good girl and bad girl riles me up for many different reasons. The notion that anyone is inherently good or bad creates such a shame spiral that many of us spend our lifetimes trying to unravel. And even if that wasn’t the case, labels of good or bad are subjective and external - they initially come from other people’s opinions, not initially from ourselves. And they can be a way to control. Yeech.

With all that being said, if you’ve grown up and are carrying remnants of a good girl/ people pleasing persona (hi, I’m Whitney - nice to meet you! 👋🏼), there can be confusion about what breaking free from that mindset can be.

The opposite of being a good girl is being your own badass self. It’s standing compassionately in your own power. It’s looking internally to heal, evolve and grow. It’s setting boundaries that value you.

Initially it can feel pretty uncomfortable, so it’s also working through the crunchy feelings about disappointing others, getting in trouble, and not doing the “right” thing - and then making it through to the other side, realizing those things were never about you to begin with.

If this is you, I see you. Keep going. And if you need compassionate, understanding support getting through the crunch, schedule coaching sessions with me.