Our stories can keep us small or can help us evolve into our big, wonderful selves

We all have stories about ourselves and these stories can shape who we think we are and sometimes our actions. Sometimes we get so attached to some of these stories that they end up keeping us stuck. Understanding the structure or background of those stories can help unstick them and help change the narrative to move forward.

For instance, I periodically carry a story that what I say doesn’t matter. When that story is loud, it sometimes stops me from putting myself out there or speaking up when I really want to. This story is from an inner critic, past wounds and protective parts of me who don’t want to see me get hurt. My true self understands story isn’t true and I understand where it comes from. When I show compassion for those parts of me, there is usually a small shift forward. The story isn’t as loud and I feel more courage to speak out. I’ve noticed over time that the more compassion I can give my hurt parts, the more they are willing, with consent, to step back and try something different.

With those small shifts comes the magic: the opening up of the stories that you matter, that you do have a voice, that you can take steps forward.

All of the above takes time, patience and small, small steps. The smaller the better because those small steps allow your and your wounded parts to learn that it’s safe for your beautiful, bold self to come forward.

Reach out to me for coaching sessions if you would like a guide to walk with you as you work with your stories and inner parts.