People pleasing comes from feeling emotionally unsafe inside yourself and trying to create safety outside yourself

Sometimes when we don’t feel safe within ourselves, we look outward for that safety, which can result in people pleasing. We believe that if we make someone else happy, maybe we will feel safe and worthy and loved. And we don’t have to face that we still don’t feel safe and loved within ourselves.

Oof.

Acknowledging we are looking for ways to feel safe is a first step. The safety we create doesn’t come from external sources. It comes from within - reparenting our inner children, taking small steps to feel safe in our bodies, and exploring and honoring your own needs are just a few ways to create our own inner emotional safety.

Reach out for coaching if this is something you want to create for yourself. I’ve been there, know it’s possible and would love to help.