Shame, anxiety and self-compassion

I love to travel to different places, but for years the actual travel part was totally anxiety-provoking. It’s gotten much better and the main reason is because I no longer carry the shame of there being something “wrong” with me for wanting to get to the airport at a time that feels safe for me.

When I carried that shame, my anxiety on the days I traveled was high. There were a lot of toxic dynamics going on where my feelings of shame were heightened because I was told and believed the story that I shouldn’t feel what I was feeling. That I was irrational and wrong.

I now totally understand the dynamics that were going on, as well as my people-pleaser and survival parts trying to keep me safe. And that meant overriding the other parts of me who looked for safety in space, time and calm.

I hold compassion and love for all of those parts of me. All of those parts were trying to keep me safe in the best ways they knew how. And feelings of shame and pressure without feeling you have choice can take time to move through and out of. It all makes sense and the shame is no longer there. I know there was and is nothing wrong with me.💛✨

When I travel now I feel so much more at peace. I know I have choice and I know the shame stories didn’t come from me and I can let them go. My parts are all working with, not against, each other and I can feel present. It took some crunchy inner work and time and it feels great to make choices that align with my needs and who I am.💛✨

Now if the sky could just work on turbulence, please!😜

It takes time, small steps, self-compassion and lots of unlearning - and you can absolutely return to yourself.💛 You got this.💪🏼

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