Some relationships won’t have the closure you want. That’s ok.

It’s human nature to want relationships and situations that end to have closure. We tell ourselves that most stories have a beginning, middle and an end. When these situations or relationships don’t have the ending we want, it can feel as if it’s untied or that there is no closure.

When this happens, it’s important to create closure in a way that works for us. We can grieve that it didn’t end the way we wanted. We can create a ritual that allows us to say goodbye and gives us the peace we need to move forward. Oftentimes not having closure means there was lack of consent of how we wanted it to end. The ability to reframe it so that we have consent to to create our own closure is essential to healing.

If you have a situation or relationship that lacks closure for you, what can you do for yourself to give you the closure you need? And remember to be kind to yourself and the parts that are grieving. Your feelings and emotions make sense.