You can’t change people who are high on the narcissistic spectrum

As much as you want them to or want to believe they can, the chances that they will look inward to see and understand themselves and their impact are slim.

And if you lean toward people pleasing,
it can be hard because people with high narcissistic tendencies will constantly raise the bar for you to jump over. And however many times you try to “fix” yourself or them, it’s not going to happen.

It’s ok to realize and grieve that the person you care about isn’t able or willing to be accountable or responsible for their actions.

And as you process that grief, it’s ok to start letting go of that expectation and focus on what you need for yourself. That’s not being selfish - that’s coming back to you.💛

If this resonates, know I’ve been where you are and see you. It sucks. Know that slowly and over time as you heal, you’ll realize that as you let go, loving and having compassion for yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself. You matter and you deserve to have healthy relationships. Keep healing and keep going. You matter.💛