You don’t have to…

You don’t have to:

• prove yourself to anyone to be loved

• accept breadcrumbs for being “good” or doing the “right” thing

• “earn” love and acceptance

You get to be loved and accepted for simply being you.

You get to love and accept YOURSELF for simply being you.

Embracing and accepting that not everyone is going to like you…

Embracing and accepting that not everyone is going to like you opens the door to:

• Going for the job you always wanted

• Joining the cause you deeply believe in

• Going on that dream trip

• Saying no to the things you don’t want to do

• Saying yes to the things you do

• Living fully the life you want

• Feeling more yourself than you ever imagined possible

It feels freaking scary to be ok with not everyone liking you, especially when you’ve been taught and conditioned to make everyone happy, to be the “good girl,” or to keep the peace.

And taking steps toward accepting and embracing the delicious thought that not everyone HAS to like you can be so freeing because you get to start living the life that YOU want.

Start by imagining what you really want in life. Picture it in glorious detail. How does it truly feel?

If you start having pushback thoughts about who wouldn’t like you if you actually had that life, ask yourself how old/what age do you feel when you think about it. Is it a younger version of yourself? If yes, what do your younger version want you to know? Can you have compassion for that part of you? What would you say to them?

Doing those two small exercises can create space for moving forward. Be patient with yourself - it’s an ongoing process to break down beliefs that have been there a long time. Over time you’ll start to realize that loving and accepting yourself and your dreams is what truly matters.

Would you like to dive deeper into this process? Sign up for a free 30-minute chat with me and explore coaching and see if we’re a good fit.

Let your creativity bloom

I recently started painting again and I have a painting that is my special work in progress. For years I felt frozen to create, and honestly it’s still a stop-start / freeze-unfreeze process as I continue to learn to feel safe in my mind and body.

A lot of creativity comes from nurturing places of safety. When you feel safe there’s more space for ideas, artistry, compassion and love. It takes time and small, gentle steps to get there. To move toward your true self without shame, or judgement. To accept yourself and all of your parts - light and shadow - with love and self-compassion. Lots of small steps and lots of compassionate time as you begin to see and feel yourself bloom. 🌷🌼💛

Where would you like to see your creativity bloom? How can you nurture your creativity with compassion and love? What small steps work for you?

Sometimes your body says rest. So you do.

t’s been a busy six weeks of lots of good things. I got to travel, climb mountains, visit big cities, meet amazing people, hang out with friends, watch my business grow and my wonderful kids thrive.

And yesterday I got a cold - the first one since 2019. Achoo!

Good things can be a lot for your system, too. Rest is important and my body is letting me know that. So, Maisie and I are resting today (she’s happy to have me home💛).

Your body lets you know when it needs to rest. If you can, let it know you hear it and take some time for yourself. 💛

What if accepting you’re incomplete is the thing that makes you whole?

It can feel exhausting to constantly be on the search to find the thing that completes you. If just had that job, partner, house, degree, etc. you’d finally feel complete and then it would be ok. You could rest and be happy and whole because those things made you whole. And then, you get there and still feel incomplete. So you look for something else that will finally complete you. And it goes on and on and you wonder why you feel dissatisfied.

As great as it would be, life isn’t usually tied up in a bow. Yes, life is full of stories, but most of them don’t usually have an arc like we see on TV with a beginning, middle and end - a completion. Life is usually a multitude of unexpected and non-linear and unfinished story lines. And that can feel super frustrating when all you want is that neatly tied bow of a ending so you can finally rest.

What if it felt ok and the rest came from accepting the thought that being incomplete and non-linear is the thing that actually makes you whole? Not the job, the partner, etc. Simply knowing you are so ok simply in your incompleteness, without it tied up in a pretty bow? What if accepting your incompleteness is the thing that helps you feel whole?

I’m not saying don’t move toward goals or partners or things you want in life. We are inherently drawn to move forward. And what if you move forward with the intention that your life experience is the beautiful incomplete picture of an ongoing life that can’t be tied up? That you are a beautiful, incomplete person in a messy, incomplete, expansive life and that’s ok?

You deserve to be heard

Your truths, experiences and stories deserve to be listened to and held with supportive compassion. Being seen, heard and supported with compassion can be life-changing. You matter and your experiences, truths and stories matter. 💛

If you are looking for support reach out. We can chat and talk about your needs and wants and how you can be best supported. The link for a getting to know us session is in my bio. I’m looking forward to chatting with you.
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Being “good” denies the badass in you

Many of us are so conditioned to be “good” - to not say too much or give your opinion, follow the rules, be agreeable, be small, be compliant. Being “good” basically means doing what others want and need from us while ignoring our own needs.

This conditioning over time squashes and denies our inner knowing - our inner badass. And then we wonder why we feel stuck, sad or not ourselves.

And yet your inner badass is still there despite being squashed and waits to be freed. Your inner badass is ready. It’s just a matter of excavation. 💛

I support you as you excavate your inner badass and break down your conditioning in small, safe steps. Sign up 6-session coaching package. More info is in my bio. You got this!

Travel is a mindset

Even though you may not be traveling geographically, you travel every day in literal and metaphorical ways. Life itself is travel, really. Sometimes you time travel to the past or future with your thoughts. Other times you travel by being absolutely present, experiencing a range of feelings and emotions. Sometimes you travel with your thoughts and creativity, going to places your dream of. Traveling is anything and everything you make it to be.

Yep, it’s cliché AND true - traveling is never really about the destination, even if you are going to a specific place. Traveling is about the experiences, people and feelings/emotions you experience along the way. Traveling can a mindset of never-ending curiosity for connection, growth and love, even when the journey is bumpy at times.

Where are you traveling today?

As your life coach, I help guide you on you travels with a hand on you back. I walk with you as you move through the turbulence, bumps and flat tires. I support you through transformation and help you find and learn to trust your inner-compass.

It’s ok not to make space for people who aren’t accountable for their actions or behaviors

In case you felt you needed permission - I see you. 💛

Our people pleaser parts sometimes want to keep the peace when someone isn’t accountable for what they do or say.

And…It’s not our job to make others feel comfortable for their bad behavior or words. We can get into patterns and conditioning where we think it’s our responsibility, when really it’s up to the person who isn’t taking responsibility to take care of themselves.

Love on those people pleasing parts of you. They’ve been working hard to keep you safe.💛

And…if you can (this part can take time), let them they don’t have to do it anymore.

Reach out if you need coaching support. I get it and can walk with you as you heal and grow. You’ve got this. 💛

Weaknesses vs. superpowers

What if what people call your weaknesses are actually your superpowers?

People’s opinions of you are just that - opinions. You’re not “too” anything. And honestly, the thing that someone is “too”-ing you about most likely is a hidden strength. How will you choose to learn from and use your superpower? Put that cape on and fly!! ✨💪🏼✨

Comparison and authenticity

I’ve been talking a lot with people about this lately. It’s seems so easy and natural to compare ourselves with others - AND when we do it, we are pushing away an authentic part of us who wants to be seen.

Underneath comparison is a sneaky (I say this in a loving way💛) protective part of us who is feeling shame or feeling not good good enough. So they start comparing with others to make sure we’re “ok.”

Truth is, we’re totally ok. In fact, the more we can focus on what actually works or us NOT in comparison with others is when we shine our brightest.

Have compassion for the parts of you who feel they need to compare. They love you and want to keep you safe. AND love that part of yourself who wants to shine brightly, too. ✨💛✨

The more you travel…

The more you travel the more you realize:

• the amazing impact travel has on you.

• you have an amazing impact on yourself and others.

Travel can be metaphorical, physical or spiritual. Travel can be just a few steps or thousands of miles away.

Where and how do you want to travel today?

You are worthy of rest

Sometimes we’re hesitant to rest because our identity is tied up in what we DO, not who we ARE. Because of this, rest can feel like a threat to our identity. I makes sense that rest can feel scary. If this resonates, taking small steps to untangle the message that you’re worth more than what you do is key.

You are worthy of rest.

Taking slow safe, steps to rest

If rest is a challenge for you and something you want to add to your routine, one of the most important things you can do is let your body know it’s safe to rest. Start by taking short resting breaks - even 1-2 minutes is enough. Let yourself know the amount of time you’re taking and honor it. If it starts to feel uncomfortable, stop, have compassion for yourself and try a shorter amount next time. If you feel comfortable and safe, add a little more time next time.

Honoring how you feel when you rest helps you and your body feel safe. Take your time. There is no rush as you let your body know it’s safe to rest.

You are not lazy for resting

If you were ever told you were lazy or bad for resting, it makes sense that resting can feel challenging or “wrong.” Know that when someone said that, they either had their own story about resting or they gained something by not having your rest. Either way, their story or motives had nothing to do with you.

It’s ok to rest.

It’s ok to process and rest after change

Change, in whatever form, can feel a lot. Regardless of whether it’s something you want or not, it can feel overwhelming, or even rushed. A lot of times when you feel this way, you’re in the in between phase of accepting the change and wanting to get through it to the other side. And that feeling of impatience and rush can be exhausting.

It’s ok as you’re going through change to rest. To take time to feel the feelings and emotions associated with the change. To sit with what was and what’s to come. To grieve and celebrate it all. To put it down for a moment, listen to what’s inside and take care of you. To shut your eyes and rest.💛

Every new adventure gives you space to grow

Sometimes new experiences can feel uncomfortable or scary, as well as exciting. And that’s totally ok.

Take a moment to feel into all of it. Pay attention to how your body is feeling. Be curious about what’s going on internally and externally.

Be kind to the parts who feel scared along with the excited parts. What are they all trying to tell you?

Growth involves self-honesty, self-love and self-compassion

It’s all about self-honesty, which is very different than self-shaming. It’s having a clear, honest view of yourself that moves past and heals the shame and helps you move forward.

Is it hard work? Yep. There’s grief and frustration and untangling shame from honesty and acceptance. It’s about learning to love all parts of you.

Does it take time? Yep. It’s not a one and done process. It takes small steps. It takes moving forward and going backwards. It’s moving up and down and learning that the hills and valleys can get smaller.

Is it worth it? Yep. Being honest with yourself is a great gift. Self-trust is a powerful way to show yourself love. Self-honesty, self-compassion and self-trust is healing and moves you forward toward the life and person you know you are and want to be. 💛

When you work with me, we work together in building honesty, self-trust and self-compassion without shame. You learn to love your whole self and grow and move forward in a healthy, loving way. 💛

Go to the link in my bio for more information about setting up coaching sessions with me. I support your growth honestly and compassionately. You have my support the whole way. 🌱✨💛

Loving the parts of you who feel shame will set you free

Oof! This is a deep one! 💛

The parts of you who felt or feel shame are inner child parts waiting for you to love and have compassion for them.

And when you show them that love and compassion, they get a chance to relax and rest. They know they are safe, seen and ok. It’s what they’ve always wanted. You are repairing the parts of yourself that didn’t get to heal or be seen at certain times in your life.

And when they relax from carrying shame, you start to feel lighter, too. Because those parts love you back and you feel it. They don’t carry that level of stress and shame anymore and want to have fun and feel love. And want you to have the same. You all feel safe and free.💛

This can be tough, deep work - and it’s worth it for you and your inner child parts. You and they deserve love and compassion.
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Embrace the crunchy part of growth

It’s ok to embrace the crunchy part of growth! It’s not super fun when you’re at the crunchy part - AND it’s a signal that you’re on the edge of leveling up to something amazing.

I used to hate the crunch, but now when I feel it or see my clients feel it, I do a little silent happy dance because I know our brains and bodies are figuring it out. We’re doing the work to get to the other side and we’re almost there.

Keep going. The crunch smooths out. And yes, there will be other crunchy times, and over time you’ll start to learn and embrace the pattern that the crunchies are part of amazing growth.

Keep going. 💛